“And Baby Makes How Many?”
Although no one has ever come straight out and asked me if I “have a great sex life” (a direct quote from the article on “Large Families” in the February 6, 2009 edition of the New York Times), they have alluded to thinking it. Going out with my “large” brood in public instantly attracts attention and questions from curious on-lookers. The most common comment I receive is “Wow. Are they all yours?” To which, depending on how I’m feeling that day, respond either “Actually, no, I picked them all up on sale in Aisle 5. Get ‘em while they’re hot!!!!” or a somewhat annoyed “Yes”. When I was pregnant for the first time, I thought it amazing to see the thin aisle at the grocery store clear as I approached others. Now, the clearing process when five are in tow is downright astounding.
I am not some uneducated idiot who knows nothing of technology or how babies are born. The simple truth is I love my life and it is good for children to learn to share & not be selfish. In regard to my childrens’ births, we’ve been fortunate that things have gone the way they have, flawlessly, with no problems.
Last week’s SNL was all abuzz about the Octuplets in California birth, and showed a mock Angelina Jolie asking if there were any extras for her. What is it about having more than 2.5 kids that makes people think the mother couldn’t possibly be fulfilled? Or worse yet, need a referral to the local shrink?
I had the first inklings of how happy large family life could be back in the 80’s, when my best friend was one of eight. Contrary from “Eight is Enough”, I saw genuine happiness and real teamwork going on in her family. The TV was never on at their house, but there was always meaningful conversation, and always someone to play with. I guess that’s when the seeds were planted.
I now have what I saw then. Our favorite family activity is cuddling up on the couch and being together. We read, we chat, we ask each other’s opinions on things. We work and play together.
It’s a great life.