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And so it happened…Moving

“The Catholic faith is not reducible to a moral theory, or social activism, or an even an intellectual system; it is a life of complete cooperation with a person — Jesus Christ. It is this life with Christ that defines the Christian and involves his or her entire life. This proposal is for a place of prayer, evangelization, Christian formation and service for the Diocese. This would be a center for forming persons committed to advancing respect for both human life and human dignity by prayer, word and deed and for giving witness to the Gospel.”
Such were the words that got the ball rolling.
My husband had been unhappy with his job in Chicago for several years. But like any good responsible husband, he was not about to quit because he found his job unpleasant. Who says providing for one’s family should be without its hardships? Speaking to some colleagues, he was directed to speak to a certain bishop who might possibly be interested in his ideas. What came out of this was beyond our wildest dreams.
God never gives you more than you can handle; and it is true that when things get to be too much, He provides a way out.
Two months ago, on the weekend of Martin Luther King Jr. Day, Nick drove down to Missouri to meet the bishop and to talk about evangelization. The kids and I had renewed our efforts to attend daily mass and pray for our personal vocation. The main prayer of my heart was that God would give Nick a way out of his former job situation, as well as a way to use his talents that seemed underused in that position. I remembered how happy he was on the farm and wished for a return to that life.
Every time the kids and I were successful going to daily mass (meaning against all odds of last minute diaper blow-outs, squabbles and meltdown amongst the younger children, and insistent toddlers insisting they did not need to hold my hand on the way to church, only to fall down and end up with a skinned knee which would further sabotage our chances of getting to mass that day), the mass readings centered around detachment to the things of this world and being open to a new kind of life.
The morning after I argued with Nick about how safe our community was, we found gang graffiti, for the first time, on our neighbors’ garages in the alley. Later that week, I spoke of how I did not want to move away from Chicago, my parents, and my “home”. The next day, I heard this reading at mass: ”Whoever is not willing to leave mother, father, sister or brother for the sake of my kingdom is not worthy to follow me”
And later that week, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few.”
As for the pull on my conscience to do more to help the less fortunate, the Gospel for that day was, “And Jesus looked around and said to his disciples, “How hard it will be for those who have riches to enter the kingdom of God!” And the disciples were amazed at his words. But Jesus said to them again, “Children, how hard it is to enter the kingdom of God! It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”
Just a few months ago, I was firmly attached to my current life. After hearing these readings, I felt I could go anywhere.
February was a time of waiting to hear back about various job options. One of them was in West Virginia, another was downstate Illinois, and last but not least, the final one was near Springfield, Missouri. At times, it seemed nothing would come through for Nick, and we resigned ourselves to staying in Chicago, with him continuing to work downtown, but we both quietly hoped there would be a change for us in the future.
One day, as I was homeschooling the children, I suddenly felt the need to stop and pray. I took a fifteen minute break while the girls were working on their schoolwork, and called the Poor Clares of Rockford, and the Missionaries of Charity of Chicago with my prayer intention: “Would one of the sisters please take upon herself the prayer intention of giving Nick some clarity on the job situation.” I hung up the phone, knowing that something was going to happen. Five hours later, Bishop Johnston called Nick and offered him a position!
So fast forward to today, everything has worked out. In our Christmas 2010 letter, we asked our friends and family to pray for us, as we felt we were being led back to the farm, or at least to a life where it is easier to be good. The property that we get to live on has worked out (it is a 100+ acre farm called Trinity Hills). It is a beautiful, peaceful, serene place. I am in awe of what has happened to us, and I am humbled by this great responsibility to further the New Evangelization. All is packed and we are living out of boxes, eagerly waiting for the date when we get to go “back to the farm”.

You’re not off my “friends’ list”

I have started to get inquiries from people wondering if they are still on our Christmas card list. The short answer is “Yes! You are!” As my three year old Teresa likes to say, “You ARE on my friends’ list!”

I had the best intentions to get these cards out BEFORE Christmas. Other moms with lots of kids did this (even one mom with eight kids), so I knew I could do it, too! However, it has been a CRAZY month around here of getting kids adjusted to school outside our home, getting the kids being educated in our home to actually DO their schoolwork, and then six of us getting the stomach flu just after Christmas Eve. So, the Christmas cards & beautiful letters are still here, everyone, waiting to go out. They say “Merry Christmas”….fortunately as Catholics, we celebrate for many days after Christmas Day. As far as I know, the Christmas police have not arrived yet to tell us it’s over. Thank goodness.

Are you going to have any more?

Thank you, Jennifer, at Conversiondiary.com for such a well said article on having more children.

Solutions that respect the dignity of women

Wise words came yesterday from Rome’s Archbishop Celestino Migliore, Holy See permanent observer to the United  Nations in New York:

“The advancements achieved regarding the status of women in the world in the last fifteen years include, among others, improvements in the education of girls, the promotion of women as key to eradicating poverty and fostering development, growth of  participation in social life, political reforms aimed at removing forms of  discrimination against women and specific laws against domestic violence”, he added.

“In particular, among  the many parallel events, some have stressed the indispensable role played by civil society in all its components, in highlighting the dignity of women,  their rights and responsibilities. This having been said, women continue to suffer in many parts of the world”.

“…women’s human rights are an inalienable,  integral and indivisible part of universal human rights. This is key not only  to understanding the inherent dignity of women and girls but also to making  this a concrete reality around the world”, he concluded.

So, ladies (and men), don’t be misguided. There is much out there saying the Catholic Church doesn’t care about women. These claims are simply not true. The past couple days, it has been all about you!

Ash Wednesday is February 17

Back by popular demand, I am posting the link and embeding the video of  ”Jesus The Stations of the Cross” (below). Sorry to all those who had trouble finding it due to a 404 error! All credit due to “Rooftop” for the YouTube video. Also for pre-Lent consideration, here are the readings for Ash Wednesday 2010.

Jesus the Stations of the Cross

Dust

I am spending today with a bunch of dead people. No, I do not work at a morgue. I am at the cemetery. Today is All Soul’s Day, and my dear husband has given me a “day off” of retreat to spend as I wish. Before leaving today, we talked about where I planned to go. I have been craving some quiet one-on-one time with my maker, and as I said to Nick, “What I really need is a swift kick in the pants!”

The difference between myself and all the people six feet under is that while their bodies are dead, their souls are still alive. For me, my body is alive, but my soul is nearly dead from a lack of prayer, a lack of grace. I’ve stubbornly been avoiding asking Him for it. Clearly, He would give it; the problem is me not wanting to fall again. I know this is where to trust in God’s infinite mercy… but as St. Paul says, “For I do not do what I would like to do, but instead I do what I hate….  For even though the desire to do good is in me, I am not able to do it.” Ever been in a rut such as this?

Despite all those wise words from persons much wiser than myself on living the spiritual life, being a busy homeschooling mom of six living children has made me somber – slightly joy-less – I’m not a bad mommy – but if only I disciplined my mind, I could be so much better – like Zelie Martin. Hence, my first stop today:  St. Joseph’s Cemetery.

Thousands of mortal remains have been laid to rest here. It is a chilly autumn day. The wind is churning; echoing its sound: “You are dust, to dust you shall return.” As I walk through the crunchy leaves, shades of goldenrod, orange, and red, I am surrounded by towering monuments and level grave markers. One overriding thought pervades my mind: This someday will be me. Death is the one inevitable thing that happens to us all.  Although we try to do many things to delay its onset, age-defying remedies such as cosmetics, diet, or lifestyle changes, even these things cannot prevent the simple truth: We are destined for death.

A healthy dose of this reality around the “mini-Triduum” of All Hallow’s Eve, All Saints’ Day, and All Souls Day can do one no harm. I am not afraid of death, per se. But I am afraid of the judgment, since I am not sure that I have made the most of every waking moment I’ve lived here on earth. This is where one has to trust in God’s mercy.

My current issue, as aforementioned, is that I am tired. It is not due to a lack of rest, or some solitude every day – my dear husband is sure to make sure I have such time everyday. I just feel tired. How much of this is reasonably due to the pressures of my vocation is undisputed. But how much as this, in spite of the pressures of my vocation, I am allowing to overwhelm me, is another story.

How many mixed feelings I have about needing to be “comfortable”, have a “life of my own outside my family”,  and generally needing “free time”. Why would I desire such things, when I clearly have everything I need to be happy and realize I am blessed beyond belief? The thought is strange to me, too. So, what I’ve decided to do, is to examine this today. To recall the many times, previous to today, I could say with absolute certainty that there is no need for my vocation to be “split”, between my self and those who need my help for their very existence, and prospering.

So, with the tombstones in the background for scenery, I am reading “Story of a Soul: The Autobiography of St. Therese of Lisieux”. What I’m finding is that this young women, who was never married, never gave birth, and was 13 years younger than I at the time of her death speaks volumes of wisdom on not only family life and concern for the poor, but living and loving others in general.

I have not progressed through the whole book yet, but will write again, after I’ve had the chance to process what I’ve read.

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